Men are often portrayed as “guys” and “girls.” But restrictive gender roles have no place in sexual relationships, especially when they involve two males.
What counts as sex is entirely up to the individual and his or her partner. There are many ways to have sex, and it’s never wrong as long as it’s consensual.
Vaginal
Men who have vaginal contact can engage in many sexual practices, including kissing/snogging, oral sex, male masturbation, fellatio and penetrative sex. Two men can also have anal sex, butt fucking and other forms of male to male penetration that are strictly gay, such as inserting one man’s cock up another man’s ass and using it as a cunt.
If a man has penile anal sex, he can lie on his back and position himself in the missionary position, which allows the penetrating man’s penis to easily reach the anus of the receptive partner. However, it’s important to use a good amount of lubrication and avoid excessive pressure on the anus, which can cause pain for both partners. For a more comfortable experience, try using natural lubricants like olive or almond oil.
Anal
Gay men often enjoy sexual pleasure via anal contact, especially when using penetrative anal sex, where an erect penis goes in the anus. This can be painful for the receiver, so it is important to use plenty of lube and communicate with your partner about what feels good or doesn’t feel good.
Anal sex is also more likely to transmit infections like STIs than other types of sex because the anus is a tight, sensitive area where tiny skin tears are more common. That’s why it’s important to always use a barrier, like a condom, and to use anal lubricant that is water-based. You should also clean and trim your nails before and after anal sex because unkept nails can increase the likelihood of transferring bacteria to the anus.
A variation on anal sex that is fairly common among MSM is called felching. This involves several men performing unprotected anal sex on the same man, ejaculating in his anus, and then eating the semen out of his anus. This practice is also highly suspect because it increases the risk of transmission of STIs.
Some MSM choose not to have anal sex at all. That’s fine too, as long as the other person consents to that. Many MSM prefer oral sex or mutual masturbation instead of anal sex.
Oral
Oral sex is when you stimulate your partner’s genitals via the mouth, lips, or tongue. It can include a variety of different sexual practices, including cunnilingus (oral sex performed on the vagina, vulva, or clitoris), fellatio (oral sex involving the penis), and anilingus (oral sex involving the anus). It may be used for foreplay before penetration with a penis or sex toy, or it may replace intercourse entirely. It’s important to communicate and consent, whether you are the giver or the receiver of oral sex.
You can use your tongue and fingers to explore the clitoris, and you can also massage the anus rim using gentle pressure to tease and relax your partner. If you are comfortable with it, you can also insert a finger or sex toy into the anus hole for added pleasure.
Oral sex can offer sexual pleasure that is similar to orgasms, but it also comes with the risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Men who engage in oral sex can pass STIs like herpes, syphilis, gonorrhea, and HIV to their partners. They can also spread intestinal parasites like giardia and bacteria like E.coli and shigella.1
Foreplay
Foreplay is a sexual and romantic activity that helps couples prepare for intercourse. It can lead to an increase in arousal, blood flow to the genitals, and vaginal lubrication. Foreplay can also boost emotional intimacy between partners. It can be a great way to increase sexual desire and build trust. It can also help with anxiety about having sex or challenges such as erectile dysfunction and vaginismus.
For men, foreplay can be anything that makes you and your partner(s) feel sexually aroused or intimate. It can be as simple as kissing or touching. It can also be something more sexually provocative such as oral sex or manual stimulation. Some people even like to massage each other as foreplay. Some people prefer a light touch up their arms while others enjoy a firmer touch. The key is to be open about what you and your partner(s) like and enjoy, and to communicate that clearly so everyone is happy.
Don’t be afraid to push the boundaries and get creative with your foreplay. For example, if you’re both similar heights, you can lay side by side and curve into a V shape so that your faces are in each other’s crotch. You can also try the missionary position, where one man lies on his back and another person lays on top of him. This is a good way to get the anal ridges lined up, which can increase sensation for penetration.
