Anal training can be a fun kinky thing to do with a partner and it’s often used as a precursor for anal sex with a penis or dildo. Whether you’re a top or sub, it helps to prepare the anus for penetration.
Taking it slow, using plenty of lube, and ensuring that your anus and sphincters are relaxed is important. Here’s how you can do that:
Choosing your sex toys
If you’ve been working up to anal play for a while and have a good idea of what size toys work best for your butt, you may be ready to start exploring girthier penetrative toys. However, remember that the anus isn’t as stretchy as the vagina so you need to go up in size gradually. Going too fast or getting ahead of yourself can cause micro tears that lead to pain and could put your anus at risk for infection.
You can start with a simple butt plug or a slender anal dilator. Many kits are available that contain different sized anal dilators, so you can gradually move up in size. Plugs are great for warming up and getting the anus used to touch without penetration. You can also use a front-stuff toy like a penis ring or vibrator if you’re comfortable with that kind of sensation.
Before you insert a toy, be sure to lay down a dark towel, have some baby wipes nearby and plenty of lube open and ready to use. Take your time and keep a positive mindset, remembering that every anal is different and what’s easy for one person might be challenging for another. Once you’re ready, apply some lube to your anal and insert the toy. Remember to move slowly and gently, and pay attention to the sensations to gauge how far your anus can go.
Whether you’re doing anal play solo or with a partner, warm-up is an important part of an anal training session. Getting your butt muscles relaxed and ready to accept penetration will make it more enjoyable for both you and your partner. It also reduces the chances of you going too far, which can lead to painful anal sex.
Start with a gentle massage to get your muscles limber. You can use lube on your fingers or on a toy, but it’s best to use a water-based lube, as oil-based ones may break down latex condoms and cause irritation. Adding extra lube will help the anal toy slide into the canal, which will give you a deeper sensation.
Once you’re ready to go, lie on your side with your knees bent and your tush elevated if possible. This position will give you easier access to the anus and allow your partner to lie back comfortably. You can kiss their favorite erogenous zones or even masturbate them during this time.
After a gentle massage, begin by inserting your finger or a toy into the anal. Use plenty of lube and push downwards for about five seconds, then push upwards for another five. Once you’re comfortable with this, move on to a bigger anal toy. This will take some time, but don’t rush it; you want to make sure your anus is able to accommodate a larger toy before you try to push an eight-inch dildo down it.
Deep anal pressure
Deep anal penetration can feel pretty good, but it’s also a bit riskier than just plugging. Because the anus isn’t self-lubricating like the vagina, it’s more susceptible to tearing and infections. It’s not as easy to sanitize, either. If you’re doing anal depth training, it’s best to avoid toys that are made from porous materials like jelly, PVC, TPE, or plastic. Stick to 100% body-safe silicone and make sure that the toy has a flared base that prevents it from being sucked into your butt.
During depth training, the goal is to train your anus to relax and move forward under pressure. It takes time and patience, and a lot of lube. It can be tempting to push through pain, but that can cause muscle memory and make it harder for the anus to relax next time. The outer sphincter isn’t something you can consciously control; it has to learn through repeated experience how to relax, just like any other muscle.
Once you’re comfortable with pushing a small toy through your anus, it’s time to work up to larger toys and other types of anal play, like gaping. You’ve probably seen it in porn, where a guy’s butthole opens wide after being penetrated with a large butt plug or penis. It’s called gaping, and it can be very pleasurable.
Anal training is an amazing kinky practice that can be done alone or with a partner. It’s a great way to work up to anal penetration or just add an extra level of pleasure into your play. Whether you’re a Dominant who wants to test their submissive or vice versa, anal training can bring you much joy. And don’t forget, you can still want anal sex without wanting power exchange – that’s not inherently kinky.